Keep your eye on the ball!! Or else!!!

It's been a tiring week but very productive. Ben has only had 4 2hr sessions with volunteers this week so I've been doing a lot of the playing. It's been great fun but pretty tiring as its been play, park, play, park etc.

Ben has started to progress in the playroom with his toilet training and has actually done a wee (with pants off and in tub) for both Amy and Jade. Yay!

His language has also made a big leap this week. He recently started to point things out to us like 'sky' 'shoes' 'car' etc. which was great as his language was no longer just functional but conversational as well. But this week he has moved on a little more and has a couple of times pointed and said 'what is it?' quite clearly! He is babbling a lot now as well and sometimes in amongst all that chunnering there are some sentences.

The best one at the moment is 'pick it up please.' This is a new game he's started plying with me where he puts a cup on the floor, not sure why it's a cup, then he wants me to say pick it up please. Then when he picks it up I have to say 'oh thank you Ben.'

You might be wondering how I know what to say, well he said it first and pointed at me! How amazed was I?

Stay Alert Mum!

I don't know about other parents with autistic children but I know that I can't take my eye off the ball for a second without 'something' happening. An unfortunate event as I like to call them :)

I'm tired this morning after a migraine yesterday and most defiantly not at my best. So I'm doing the dishes, bit daydreamy, and he's already done a poo this morning, and he has just done a wee so I think I'm safe :)

Next minute Ben comes into the kitchen, from being upstairs for ten minutes, completely naked, covered in poo and says 'help me' in a really timid little voice.

I didn't know whether to laugh or cry!

Park Friends Please! :(

We haven't been to the park this morning as I got myself a bit upset yesterday when we were there. Ben is really trying to make friends with other kids. He's going up to them and getting some eye contact and giving them a big smile, then he says something unintelligible and the kid normally runs away and hides by their mum. He sometimes continues to follow them around and in the end they start saying 'stop following me' which he doesn't understand!

He started to get a bit upset yesterday about it and ended up wanting to go home. He just hasn't got the language skills yet, but it breaks my heart. I'm really hoping he keeps trying though cos I'm sure it won't be long before he can start to talk to them.

Ok off to make the sunday roast xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx if I can stay awake *yawn* xxxxxxxxx

oooh nearly forgot Ben has put the toothbrush in his mouth and brushed his tongue and a couple of teeth for about 4secs 3times now!! Smiling as he does it, keeping my fingers crossed its not a flash in the pan!

He has also been letting me have a short (Or sometimes long, sorry Dave!) chat with volunteers after their sessions yay!

Toilet Training

Trying to start blogging again to help me to clear my head of a night :) Not sure if I'll keep it up but worth a go!

Well for the last, what seems like million weeks, but is only really about 6 weeks, I've been doing some toilet training with Ben. It started purely on a whim when I had a whole day without any volunteers. We had had a long play session and I felt that I should use rest of the day to do something more useful than just letting him wander around the house getting into mischief!

Now heres what usually happens - I hide all the nappies and tell Ben 'oh no, we've run out of nappies you'll have to wear these underpants like a big boy' He then throws a massive tantrum and secretly wee's anytime I'm not looking. By bedtime I fold and give him the nappies back.

So this is what I was expecting, but after 10mins he was happily wearing the underpants and I had idea what I was going to do next. I'd never got to this part!

I had to send my mum out for more underpants as I only had about 3 pair and in the first two hours they had all been weed on! Then he decided that only trunk style ones would do so Amy, one of his volunteers, got me some from next. As buttons are the devil (according to Ben) boxer shorts are also out of the question!

During the first week I think I lost the will to live and was very close to a nervous breakdown. Every time I moved away from him he weed on something and while I was cleaning it up he would go and wee on something else.

My fabric couch smelt like the animal house at the zoo and the hall/stairs/landing carpet wasn't far behind.

I pleaded for help on facebook and luckily a couple of amazing teachers from the Autism Treatment Centre of America posted very helpful comments. So the plan was to catch the wee and get it in the toilet so he knows that wee goes in something!

So to cut a very long story a bit shorter :) At the moment Ben is getting closer to being toilet trained. He crouches on the floor to wee so it has proved very difficult to catch the wee in anything. So we have these little plastic boxes! Like tupperware!

If I prompt him when I think he needs a wee he will now take his underpants off ( He crouches so low if he doesn't take all his bottoms off he wees on them) and wee in the tub. We then have to do comedy hiccups to throw it into the toilet! Then when all the wee is in the toilet we have to cry because it's gone, again in comedy fashion :)

I even have to do this when we are out, We use the disabled toilet because Ben is terrified of hand dryers, but can you imagine what people must think :)

He is dry of a night and is mostly great when we are out of the house as long as we make regular toilet trips. In the house if I'm on the ball all the time then he is great, but if I'm a bit dozy or not paying attention then we end up with accidents. He's not great in the playroom yet but he has done a few wees for Amy and Jade.

I've re-covered the couch with vinyl and bought lino offcuts for the landing so I'm not as stressed about accidents.

The biggest learning I have taken from all this is that if I want to be really comfortable with the accidents I have to really believe its ok when he wees on something. When the couch was fabric and the carpet was uncovered, even though I pretended, I wasn't really comfortable when he had an accident and started to get really snappy and irritable. As soon as I solved that problem I immediately relaxed and so did Ben. Pretending to have a belief doesn't work!!

Hoping when Holly visits in September she will get us going in the right direction so we can help him to move on and eventually be able to wee in the toilet!

More updates soon xxxx